Dear Sharing the Path participants,

We very much look forward to our upcoming retreat with you at Hollyhock.

We would like the two of you to do a brief exercise together to prepare you to get the most out of the program.

Please discuss and agree with your partner, on 2-3 goals that the two of you share for the retreat.

Criteria for your goals:

1. brief: no more than 15 words each
2. clear: you share an understanding of what this goal means
3. priority: you both agree these are most important for your time together

Here are just a few examples of the kinds of goals participants might have:

Through our time at this retreat, we will
examples goals/outcomes

* Improve our ability to communicate
about important matters with each other.
* Improve our enjoyment of physical
intimacy and lovemaking.
* Reach agreement about how to handle the
difficult situation with __
* Get clear on whether or not we're ready to:
move in together, get married/
have a baby/ move to New Zealand/ have
your mother come to live with
us…etc.
* Make a decision whether or not we want
to stay together.
* Share ideas what we might want to do
after our upcoming retirement
* Discover new ways of having fun together
* Forgive each other for past hurts
* Feel reconnected and more in love with
each other.

Please fill in your goals on the form below and bring three copies with you to Hollyhock. Typed versions are highly preferable.

One last request and a suggestion:

Please, if you can, bring a bottle of massage oil with you to the retreat. You will be glad you did!

If at all possible, we highly recommend scheduling at least a day after the retreat to relax and be together without the structure of the workshop.

Safe travels, and we look forward to sharing this experience with you!


Judith Ansara and Robert Gass


Please bring three copies of this form with you to Hollyhock.


Names: (please type or print clearly)




Through our time together at this retreat, we will:


Goal #1:





Goal #2:






Goal #3:



If you have questions about this pre-work, please contact: judith.ansara,,,gmail.com